by Vanessa | Jul 23, 2014 | Adolescents, Adversity Expert, Christians, Community, Dallas Teens, Daughters, Family, Family Rules, Fathers, Health, Healthy and Behavior, Healthy Emotions, Human Behavior, Human Potentials, Life, lifestyles, Living, Mother Daughter Relationship, Motherhood, Out of Control Teens, Parent Child Relationship, Parenting, Teenage Pregnancy, Texas Teens
Ways to Deal With Defiant Teens It’s tough for parents to understand how to handle a defiant teen. The frustration comes with trying various strategies to deal with the seemingly out of control behavior and feeling like nothing is working. The ability to “get through to them” oftentimes leads to more parent teen differences and the loss of one of the primary adhesives to all healthy relationships: trust. The subsequent conflict sometimes sends teens down a road of more negative behavior. The key to turning the situation around and putting teens on a positive path is parental awareness and expressing understanding about how their teen feels. Here are some ways to do that: 1. Underlying Reason At the baseline of all of the raw emotions defiant teens express is an underlying reason. Teens have difficulties with peers, socializing, dating, school and other external relationships that may be causing misplaced aggression. For most teens, parents are their “cushion,” you are the place they go for comfort, consolation, encouragement, love and understanding. Sometimes they just want parents to listen. Then express empathy for what they are going through. Listening and empathy oftentimes turns a negative situation into a positive one. 2. Minimize Idle Time Busy teens who participate in activities tend to perform better in school, have healthier relationships with their parents and peers and are less likely to get involved with risky behavior. 3. It’s a Battlefield: Choose Wisely As teens gain more independence and continue to discover who they are as individuals, parent child differences increase. Choose situations to contend with based on their level of safety and importance....
by Vanessa | Jul 2, 2014 | Adolescents, Change Management, Christians, Community, Dallas Teens, Daughters, Family, Family Rules, Health, Healthy and Behavior, Healthy Emotions, Healthy relationships, Human Behavior, Life, lifestyles, Living, Mother Daughter Relationship, Motherhood, Motivation, Out of Control Teens, Parent Child Relationship, Parenting, Spirituality, Stress, Teenage Pregnancy, Texas Teens, U.S. Teens, Work-family Balance, Work-life Balance
What Berkeley & Brooklyn Moms Have In Common Puberty’s effect on teens doesn’t begin to compare with it’s impact on moms. It is a common thread for all moms. There’s a storm of emotional, psychological, physical and social changes that occur during the adolescent years. What’s going on physically greatly affects an adolescent’s needs, desires, interests, and, emotions. As a tween and teen’s physical appearance changes, his or her social influence is altered as well. Great social influence is like putting a propeller on the range of emotional transformations adolescents go through. Physical changes, such as breast development, menstruation, facial hair, deeper voice and the like, affect children’s social experiences. Volatile hormones is not an excuse for extremes in moods and behavior, it’s a reality. Rapidly changing hormones is an explosion of chemicals racing through the body. Bodily changes can both positively and negatively affect a child’s social life. Teens who develop slower might experience less popularity than those who mature more quickly. The new attention or lack thereof affects a child’s self-esteem and confidence. Parents of teens share many of the same concerns, such as: Family Rules: Chores, Curfews, Driving, Hanging Out, Home Alone, Messy Room, Parties, Phones, Privacy, Screen Time, Social Networking, etc. ; Health and Behavior: Acne, Anger, Body Image, Cliques, Depression, Disorganization, Out of Control Teens, Eating Disorders, Fears, Friends, Insurance, Orthodontia, Passivity, Sleep, Spirituality; Activities, Events & Fun: Biking, Classes, Concerts, Friendships, Halloween, Moving, Parties, Prom, Sleepovers, Socializing, Spirituality, Sports, Summer, Travel, etc; Clothes, Grooming & Their Stuff: Acne, Allowance, Bras, Clothing, Credit Cards, Ebay, Gifts, Hair, Makeup, Phones, Tatoos, Piercings, etc.; and, Dating,...
by Vanessa | Jun 13, 2014 | Adolescents, Adversity Expert, Christians, Clerygymen, Community, Dallas Teens, Daughters, Family, Fathers, Health, Healthy Emotions, Healthy relationships, Human Behavior, Human Potentials, Life, lifestyles, Living, Mother Daughter Relationship, Motherhood, Parent Child Relationship, Parenting, sex education, Sons, Teenage Pregnancy, Texas Teens, U.S. Teens, United States Teens
The father daughter relationship is important because it is part of a girl’s foundation of love, trust and security. The father daughter relationship sets the standards for respect and what she “should” expect from boys and men in other areas of her life. A daughter’s relationship and interactions with her father is a significant predictor of the type of short-term and long-term relationships she will pursue when she starts dating, and, later on, gets married. It has been said that daughters marry their fathers. That’s largely because children learn a lot about love and life by what they observe growing up. If they observe love and kindness they tend to seek those attributes in other relationships. Alternatively, if they observe abuse and neglect, they are more inclined to seek relationships accordingly. http://www.ktxdtv.com/story/25770571/psychologist-dr-trevicia-williams-father-daughter-relationships A recent study showed that fathers and mothers bond differently with daughters: Dads feel more connected and close when they are actually “doing” things with their daughters whereas moms feel closest when they are having a conversation with their daughters. 1. Doing vs. Dialogue A recent study showed that a significant “Game Changer” with fathers and daughters sense of feeling close were shared activities especially sports! Other meaningful life events for fathers and daughters include: 1. leaving home; and, 2. getting married. While the Baylor Study showed that both fathers and daughters agreed that playing sports helped them bond the most, other activities dads said enriched their relationship included: 1. Engaging in faith based activities such as church; 2. Doing projects around the house together; and, 3. Giving their daughters driving lessons. The study also showed that...
by Vanessa | Jun 11, 2014 | Health, Healthy Emotions, Healthy relationships, Human Behavior, Life, lifestyles, Living, Longevity, Pain Killers, Productivity, Success, Trust
People scurry around looking for the latest health fad to make them skinnier, happier, healthier, and look younger. They spend billions of dollars trying to seize the perfect “fix.” However, few realize the health benefits of simply smiling. Some may already be thinking that it sounds to simple to be effective. However, there’s actually sound research that confirms it works! WebMD says that a smile makes you look intelligent, attractive and helps you be successful!. A smile also says a lot about your personality. Now, that’s worth genuinely flexing your facial muscles for! #NationalSmileDay Here are nine reasons to smile more: 1 – Reduce Heart Rate – The body becomes relaxed, blood pressure is reduced, and, the the heart rate is slower when we smile. This takes a load off of the heart and helps it do it’s job without overly tasking it. Research shows that people who smile and laugh a lot reduce their chances of developing heart disease. 2 – Reduce Stress – One of the top 5 causes a range of health problems in America is stress. Smiling is a simple way to reduce stress lower the influx of stress hormone cortisol. 3 – Boost Productivity – Studies show that smiling increases productivity while working. 4 – Enhances Trust – Research confirms that people trust others who genuinely smile at them. Not only is it good for our mental health, it also improves our social health. Healthy relationships begin with the reciprocation of authentic smiles. 5 – Free Pain Killer – Proverbs says: “Laughter does good like a medicine.” Those are strong words, and, research shows...
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