by Vanessa | Jul 23, 2014 | Adolescents, Adversity Expert, Christians, Community, Dallas Teens, Daughters, Family, Family Rules, Fathers, Health, Healthy and Behavior, Healthy Emotions, Human Behavior, Human Potentials, Life, lifestyles, Living, Mother Daughter Relationship, Motherhood, Out of Control Teens, Parent Child Relationship, Parenting, Teenage Pregnancy, Texas Teens
Ways to Deal With Defiant Teens It’s tough for parents to understand how to handle a defiant teen. The frustration comes with trying various strategies to deal with the seemingly out of control behavior and feeling like nothing is working. The ability to “get through to them” oftentimes leads to more parent teen differences and the loss of one of the primary adhesives to all healthy relationships: trust. The subsequent conflict sometimes sends teens down a road of more negative behavior. The key to turning the situation around and putting teens on a positive path is parental awareness and expressing understanding about how their teen feels. Here are some ways to do that: 1. Underlying Reason At the baseline of all of the raw emotions defiant teens express is an underlying reason. Teens have difficulties with peers, socializing, dating, school and other external relationships that may be causing misplaced aggression. For most teens, parents are their “cushion,” you are the place they go for comfort, consolation, encouragement, love and understanding. Sometimes they just want parents to listen. Then express empathy for what they are going through. Listening and empathy oftentimes turns a negative situation into a positive one. 2. Minimize Idle Time Busy teens who participate in activities tend to perform better in school, have healthier relationships with their parents and peers and are less likely to get involved with risky behavior. 3. It’s a Battlefield: Choose Wisely As teens gain more independence and continue to discover who they are as individuals, parent child differences increase. Choose situations to contend with based on their level of safety and importance....
by Vanessa | Jul 2, 2014 | Adolescents, Change Management, Christians, Community, Dallas Teens, Daughters, Family, Family Rules, Health, Healthy and Behavior, Healthy Emotions, Healthy relationships, Human Behavior, Life, lifestyles, Living, Mother Daughter Relationship, Motherhood, Motivation, Out of Control Teens, Parent Child Relationship, Parenting, Spirituality, Stress, Teenage Pregnancy, Texas Teens, U.S. Teens, Work-family Balance, Work-life Balance
What Berkeley & Brooklyn Moms Have In Common Puberty’s effect on teens doesn’t begin to compare with it’s impact on moms. It is a common thread for all moms. There’s a storm of emotional, psychological, physical and social changes that occur during the adolescent years. What’s going on physically greatly affects an adolescent’s needs, desires, interests, and, emotions. As a tween and teen’s physical appearance changes, his or her social influence is altered as well. Great social influence is like putting a propeller on the range of emotional transformations adolescents go through. Physical changes, such as breast development, menstruation, facial hair, deeper voice and the like, affect children’s social experiences. Volatile hormones is not an excuse for extremes in moods and behavior, it’s a reality. Rapidly changing hormones is an explosion of chemicals racing through the body. Bodily changes can both positively and negatively affect a child’s social life. Teens who develop slower might experience less popularity than those who mature more quickly. The new attention or lack thereof affects a child’s self-esteem and confidence. Parents of teens share many of the same concerns, such as: Family Rules: Chores, Curfews, Driving, Hanging Out, Home Alone, Messy Room, Parties, Phones, Privacy, Screen Time, Social Networking, etc. ; Health and Behavior: Acne, Anger, Body Image, Cliques, Depression, Disorganization, Out of Control Teens, Eating Disorders, Fears, Friends, Insurance, Orthodontia, Passivity, Sleep, Spirituality; Activities, Events & Fun: Biking, Classes, Concerts, Friendships, Halloween, Moving, Parties, Prom, Sleepovers, Socializing, Spirituality, Sports, Summer, Travel, etc; Clothes, Grooming & Their Stuff: Acne, Allowance, Bras, Clothing, Credit Cards, Ebay, Gifts, Hair, Makeup, Phones, Tatoos, Piercings, etc.; and, Dating,...
by Vanessa | Jun 13, 2014 | Adolescents, Adversity Expert, Christians, Clerygymen, Community, Dallas Teens, Daughters, Family, Fathers, Health, Healthy Emotions, Healthy relationships, Human Behavior, Human Potentials, Life, lifestyles, Living, Mother Daughter Relationship, Motherhood, Parent Child Relationship, Parenting, sex education, Sons, Teenage Pregnancy, Texas Teens, U.S. Teens, United States Teens
The father daughter relationship is important because it is part of a girl’s foundation of love, trust and security. The father daughter relationship sets the standards for respect and what she “should” expect from boys and men in other areas of her life. A daughter’s relationship and interactions with her father is a significant predictor of the type of short-term and long-term relationships she will pursue when she starts dating, and, later on, gets married. It has been said that daughters marry their fathers. That’s largely because children learn a lot about love and life by what they observe growing up. If they observe love and kindness they tend to seek those attributes in other relationships. Alternatively, if they observe abuse and neglect, they are more inclined to seek relationships accordingly. http://www.ktxdtv.com/story/25770571/psychologist-dr-trevicia-williams-father-daughter-relationships A recent study showed that fathers and mothers bond differently with daughters: Dads feel more connected and close when they are actually “doing” things with their daughters whereas moms feel closest when they are having a conversation with their daughters. 1. Doing vs. Dialogue A recent study showed that a significant “Game Changer” with fathers and daughters sense of feeling close were shared activities especially sports! Other meaningful life events for fathers and daughters include: 1. leaving home; and, 2. getting married. While the Baylor Study showed that both fathers and daughters agreed that playing sports helped them bond the most, other activities dads said enriched their relationship included: 1. Engaging in faith based activities such as church; 2. Doing projects around the house together; and, 3. Giving their daughters driving lessons. The study also showed that...
by Vanessa | Jun 18, 2013 | Adversity Expert, child bride, Community, Dallas Teens, Family, Mother Daughter Relationship, Motherhood, Parent Child Relationship, Parenting, Teenage Pregnancy, Texas Teens, U.S. Teens, Women's Health
Dr. Trevicia Williams (Twitter: @DrTrevicia) had fun answering National New York Publicist, Annie Jennings, questions about the turbulent teen years, parent child relationships, mother teen daughter relationship dynamics and more. Dr. Trevicia Williams, is the author of the book There Are Pearls In The Pain of Every Experience, and Founder of the charity, Real Beauty Inside Out, where she offers the free workshop I Love You But I Can’t Stand You Right Now – Mother Teen Daughter Healthy Relationships. Read more about Dr. Trevicia Williams’ signature I Love You But I Can’t Stand You Right Now mother teen daughter healthy relationship interview:...
by Vanessa | Apr 16, 2012 | child bride, Community, Motherhood, Parenting, sex education, Teenage Pregnancy, Women's Health
Unfortunately, according to the Center for Disease Control, Texas still has the nation’s 4th highest teen birth rate. Dallas is #1 in the nation for repeat teen pregnancies. As a former Texas child bride, and, subsequently teen mom, this issue is very dear to my heart. So, I’ve partnered with local school districts, e.g., Dallas, I.S.D., Highland Park, I.S.D. and Frisco, I.S.D., to make free workshops available to mothers and teen daughters. It takes positive role models, interventions such as the free workshops, qualified professionals and supportive communities for programs to be successful. Plano Women’s Club has contributed to the community changer program I implemented last year, and, more businesses are learning about it. However, without the support of communities, free workshops are not...
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