The Psychology of Relationships: Lessons from the Bachelorette Andi Dorfman
The Psychology of Relationships: Lessons from the Bachelorette Andi Dorfman Just off the heels of the finale of another season of ABC’s The Bachelorette with Andi Dorfman, it’s a good opportunity to look at where our culture is regarding morals, relationships, and, sex. First Clare Crawley and Juan Pablo, then Andi Dorfman and Nick Viall. Before the season started, it was reported that Chris Harrison explained why Andi “was basically Sean Lowe.” We all know that was an erroneous projection. Conversely, morals and the sanctity of sex is fading. People’s standards of behavior and beliefs about what is and isn’t acceptable to do has to leave many concerned about future generations. In a recent interview with Huffington Post, Andi called Josh Murray’s proposal “sacred.” That had to have sent mixed signals to fans since she had a very different reaction to Nick Viall questioning her motive for “making love” to him in the fantasy suite. It seems a bit backwards since sex is sacred in many religions. Nick Viall appeared to be thrown off by Andi’s demeanor for the very reason that Andi was so upset with Juan Pablo Galavis after the fantasy suite experience. Andi said the fantasy suite experience with Juan Pablo was ”a disaster” and that she felt “cheap” the morning afterwards. She was so hurt and upset about her experience that she drilled him about it the next day and decided she couldn’t go on with the relationship. In a world that’s quickly changing in perspectives, morals, and values, it was refreshing to hear and see Nick express that his intimacy with Andi “meant something”...Raising Teens: What Berkeley & Brooklyn Moms Have In Common
What Berkeley & Brooklyn Moms Have In Common Puberty’s effect on teens doesn’t begin to compare with it’s impact on moms. It is a common thread for all moms. There’s a storm of emotional, psychological, physical and social changes that occur during the adolescent years. What’s going on physically greatly affects an adolescent’s needs, desires, interests, and, emotions. As a tween and teen’s physical appearance changes, his or her social influence is altered as well. Great social influence is like putting a propeller on the range of emotional transformations adolescents go through. Physical changes, such as breast development, menstruation, facial hair, deeper voice and the like, affect children’s social experiences. Volatile hormones is not an excuse for extremes in moods and behavior, it’s a reality. Rapidly changing hormones is an explosion of chemicals racing through the body. Bodily changes can both positively and negatively affect a child’s social life. Teens who develop slower might experience less popularity than those who mature more quickly. The new attention or lack thereof affects a child’s self-esteem and confidence. Parents of teens share many of the same concerns, such as: Family Rules: Chores, Curfews, Driving, Hanging Out, Home Alone, Messy Room, Parties, Phones, Privacy, Screen Time, Social Networking, etc. ; Health and Behavior: Acne, Anger, Body Image, Cliques, Depression, Disorganization, Out of Control Teens, Eating Disorders, Fears, Friends, Insurance, Orthodontia, Passivity, Sleep, Spirituality; Activities, Events & Fun: Biking, Classes, Concerts, Friendships, Halloween, Moving, Parties, Prom, Sleepovers, Socializing, Spirituality, Sports, Summer, Travel, etc; Clothes, Grooming & Their Stuff: Acne, Allowance, Bras, Clothing, Credit Cards, Ebay, Gifts, Hair, Makeup, Phones, Tatoos, Piercings, etc.; and, Dating,...
Healthy Relationships: Ways to Avoid Psychological Bullying and Manipulation
Psychological bullying is pervasive; however, there are ways to identify and handle manipulative people who use others for personal agendas. Psychological manipulation can be described as “undue influence” through emotional abuse and mental exploitation, with the intention to gain power, control, advantages at a targeted person’s expense. Whether it’s spiritual, pastoral, platonic, intimate, family, business, or friends, all healthy relationships involve love, respect, and, mutual concern for the well being of the other person. Most people experience healthy reciprocation of giving and taking. It occurs when there’s a balanced exchange of benefits and privileges. However, when there’s an imbalance in what is exchanged emotionally, psychologically, physically, spiritually, or financially by parties, one person is being psychologically manipulated and is used for the benefit of another. The manipulator intentionally devises a plan that creates unfair leverage of power, and exploits the targeted person for the purposes of fulfilling or accomplishing his or her plan of action. ABC’s 20/20 recently did a story about how millions of people who are hurting and in difficult situations are manipulated by psychics, readers, witchcraft workers, and, witches everyday. People spend millions of dollars seeking answers to heart felt questions that they never get. Take a look at 20/20’s story: http://abcnews.go.com/US/private-investigator-helped-recover-2m-psychic-fraud-victims/story?id=23348889. God is THE only true, wholesome, full spectrum answer to your problems. You must always question the integrity of information when you are paying for it. Pick up the King James version of the Holy Bible and read, study, learn for yourself. Accept Jesus as your Lord & Savior and ask God to come into your life, and heart. Seek Him for help. In...Read more“Motivation is knowing you are learning, growing, and succeeding toward your desired outcome while sustaining positive momentum.”~Jaren L. Davis
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