The Realities of Disney Inside Out

Have you seen Inside Out yet? As a relationship life coach, I compared Disney’s Inside Out movie with my own Real Beauty Inside Out Healthy Mother Daughter Relationships seminars and coaching and found the commonality of having an inside out approach to relationships. So, here is an overview of the movie and a few tips to get through the complexities of mothers daughter relationships as well as father daughter relationships. Disney Inside Out (Pixar) leaps from the complexities of mother daughter relationships in previous movies like Cinderella and Brave and takes into account changes a father found in his own preteen little girl. For some, that is the age when adolescence begins to blur away, and kids frequently get to be touchy, darker, and they begin to disguise a significant amount of those emotions. Inside Out is an investigation of that turbulent time, and happens totally inside of the psyche of a 11 year old tween girl named Riley. The film concentrates on the main impetuses inside Riley’s head. These are fundamental feelings that drive Riley’s thought life and emotions. Simultaneously, they aide her development. They include Fear (Bill Hader), Sadness (The Office’s Phyllis Smith), Joy (Amy Poehler), Disgust (Mindy Kaling) and Anger (Lewis Black). What’s interesting is how the subconscious area of the Riley’s mind is played out through imagination, dreams, thoughts and abstract thinking. What a way for kids to be introduced to the power of the mind. In that context, the movie is very spiritual as well. So, moms, parents and guardians be aware and prepared to help your daughter or son understand the realities of the...

Dr. Trevicia Williams, Uses Coaching and Relationship Seminar to Address Publicly Shaming Teens for Punishment

 With the growing wave of parental social media shaming that has taken place in recent times, including the 13 year old girl who committed suicide after she was publicly shamed by a viral Facebook video, it was apparent to Dr. Trevicia Williams that a better way of communicating and parenting needed to be revisited. Using her years of experience as an effective success and life coach, she created the fun interactive mother daughter seminar, “I love You, But I Can’t Stand You Right Now” and a new addition to it called, “The Café.” This interactive thought-provoking seminar aims to help mothers and daughters learn skills to help them succeed through childhood, adolescence, and beyond.  Read more...

Parenting: Ways to Deal With Defiant Teens

Ways to Deal With Defiant Teens It’s tough for parents to understand how to handle a defiant teen. The frustration comes with trying various strategies to deal with the seemingly out of control behavior and feeling like nothing is working. The ability to “get through to them” oftentimes leads to more parent teen differences and the loss of one of the primary adhesives to all healthy relationships: trust. The subsequent conflict sometimes sends teens down a road of more negative behavior. The key to turning the situation around and putting teens on a positive path is parental awareness and expressing understanding about how their teen feels. Here are some ways to do that: 1. Underlying Reason At the baseline of all of the raw emotions defiant teens express is an underlying reason. Teens have difficulties with peers, socializing, dating, school and other external relationships that may be causing misplaced aggression. For most teens, parents are their “cushion,” you are the place they go for comfort, consolation, encouragement, love and understanding. Sometimes they just want parents to listen. Then express empathy for what they are going through. Listening and empathy oftentimes turns a negative situation into a positive one. 2. Minimize Idle Time Busy teens who participate in activities tend to perform better in school, have healthier relationships with their parents and peers and are less likely to get involved with risky behavior. 3. It’s a Battlefield: Choose Wisely As teens gain more independence and continue to discover who they are as individuals, parent child differences increase. Choose situations to contend with based on their level of safety and importance....

Raising Teens: What Berkeley & Brooklyn Moms Have In Common

What Berkeley & Brooklyn Moms Have In Common Puberty’s effect on teens doesn’t begin to compare with it’s impact on moms. It is a common thread for all moms. There’s a storm of emotional, psychological, physical and social changes that occur during the adolescent years. What’s going on physically greatly affects an adolescent’s needs, desires, interests, and, emotions. As a tween and teen’s physical appearance changes, his or her social influence is altered as well. Great social influence is like putting a propeller on the range of emotional transformations adolescents go through. Physical changes, such as breast development, menstruation, facial hair, deeper voice and the like, affect children’s social experiences. Volatile hormones is not an excuse for extremes in moods and behavior, it’s a reality. Rapidly changing hormones is an explosion of chemicals racing through the body. Bodily changes can both positively and negatively affect a child’s social life. Teens who develop slower might experience less popularity than those who mature more quickly. The new attention or lack thereof affects a child’s self-esteem and confidence. Parents of teens share many of the same concerns, such as: Family Rules: Chores, Curfews, Driving, Hanging Out, Home Alone, Messy Room, Parties, Phones, Privacy, Screen Time, Social Networking, etc. ; Health and Behavior: Acne, Anger, Body Image, Cliques, Depression, Disorganization, Out of Control Teens, Eating Disorders, Fears, Friends, Insurance, Orthodontia, Passivity, Sleep, Spirituality; Activities, Events & Fun: Biking, Classes, Concerts, Friendships, Halloween, Moving, Parties, Prom, Sleepovers, Socializing, Spirituality, Sports, Summer, Travel, etc; Clothes, Grooming & Their Stuff: Acne, Allowance, Bras, Clothing, Credit Cards, Ebay, Gifts, Hair, Makeup, Phones, Tatoos, Piercings, etc.; and, Dating,...
Father Daughter Relationships: Do Daughters Marry Their Dads?

Father Daughter Relationships: Do Daughters Marry Their Dads?

The father daughter relationship is important because it is part of a girl’s foundation of love, trust and security. The father daughter relationship sets the standards for respect and what she “should” expect from boys and men in other areas of her life. A daughter’s relationship and interactions with her father is a significant predictor of the type of short-term and long-term relationships she will pursue when she starts dating, and, later on, gets married. It has been said that daughters marry their fathers. That’s largely because children learn a lot about love and life by what they observe growing up. If they observe love and kindness they tend to seek those attributes in other relationships. Alternatively, if they observe abuse and neglect, they are more inclined to seek relationships accordingly. http://www.ktxdtv.com/story/25770571/psychologist-dr-trevicia-williams-father-daughter-relationships A recent study showed that fathers and mothers bond differently with daughters: Dads feel more connected and close when they are actually “doing” things with their daughters whereas moms feel closest when they are having a conversation with their daughters. 1. Doing vs. Dialogue A recent study showed that a significant “Game Changer” with fathers and daughters sense of feeling close were shared activities especially sports! Other meaningful life events for fathers and daughters include: 1. leaving home; and, 2. getting married. While the Baylor Study showed that both fathers and daughters agreed that playing sports helped them bond the most, other activities dads said enriched their relationship included: 1. Engaging in faith based activities such as church; 2. Doing projects around the house together; and, 3. Giving their daughters driving lessons. The study also showed that...
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