by Vanessa | Jun 10, 2015 | Adolescents, Adversity Expert, Business, Career, Change Management, Christians, Controlling People, Dallas Teens, Family, Healthy and Behavior, Healthy relationships, Human Behavior, Life, lifestyles, People Skills
Dealing with Difficult People Chances are high that you have met someone who just always got under your skin. You are not always going to like the people that are in your daily life. Whether it is someone you live with, or someone you work with, you need to know how to handle people that seem to live to make your life difficult. Here are 10 tips you can utilize when you are dealing with difficult people. 1. Accept, change, or reject. You only have three choices when it comes with working with difficult people. You can accept the situation. This means you know it will never change but it is what it is. You can attempt to change how you perceive the person that seems to be giving you so much difficulty. Perhaps, they are only annoying you because you do not understand them. You can reject the situation. If the situation with the person is really that difficult it is time to move on. Find a different way to work around that person without having a negative impact on your well-being. 2. Don’t lose emotional control. Some people live to antagonize others. They want to see how far they can go until you lose control. It is important that you remain calm and do not show them your annoyance. Eventually, they will give up and move on to a new target. 3. Think before you speak. You cannot take back words once you have already spoken them. When you say hurtful things, the feelings will linger with that person. It is best to continue to be kind...
by Vanessa | Oct 17, 2014 | Adolescents, Adversity Expert, Business, Career, Change Management, Community, Controlling People, Family, Family Rules, Health, Healthy and Behavior, Human Behavior, Human Rights, Life, lifestyles, Living, Manipulative People, People Skills
October is National Bullying Prevention Month, and, while most of the attention concerning the topic focuses on children in schools, adult bullying is a serious issue too. Bullying is an abusive behavior that involves intimidation and aggression with the bully’s intention to control another individual. The behavior is often repeated and habitual. The objective is to dominate and show some form of power psychologically, socially and/or physically. Often times people only think of bullying within the context of children in schools. While that is an ongoing issue that needs attention there are adults who are bullied that need to have their voices heard too. Manipulative adults abuse in many of the ways children do. However, it happens within the context of family, workplace, universities or colleges and cyber space. The four types of bullying include: 1. emotional and psychological 2. verbal; 3. physical; and, 4. cyber. Verbal abuse can be just as damaging as physical and psychological abuse; therefore, it should not be dismissed because it’s not hands on. Bullies usually target their victims based on differences in socioeconomic status, image, demeanor, ethnic background, physical build, social status, gender, faith, political views and abilities. Race and gender are protected classes of people and are protected by certain laws in the U.S.  Bullying can be person-to-person or it can occur in groups. It is referred to as peer abuse when it happens at school or at one’s job. It oftentimes involves abuse such as subdued behavior that isn’t immediately obvious. There are possibilities for bullying anytime human beings have contact or interact with each other. Notable environments include communities, homes, place of employment, schools, grocery stores, school...
by Vanessa | Sep 23, 2014 | Adversity Expert, Business, Career, Entrepreneurs, Healthy relationships, Human Behavior, Networking, People Skills, Productivity
Ideas for Making a Lasting Impression in Less than 5 minutes Research shows people form opinions about us within seconds of contact. A New York University, Graduate School of Business, study showed that within the initial seven seconds of introductions, people make 11 decisions: “(1) education level, (2) economic level, (3) perceived credibility and believability, (4) trustworthiness, (5) level of sophistication, (6) sexual identification, (7) level of success, (8) political background, (9) religious background, (10) ethnic background, (11) social and professional desirability.” That’s a real eye opener! However, don’t panic because, keeping within the 5 minutes to make a great impression, you still have 4 minutes and 53 seconds to change their minds! You are the one who gives credibility to what a person thinks. Whether you’re networking, interviewing for a new job or are in a social setting, the following tips can help you leave a positive lasting impression: http://t.co/1pXAWDui0i 1. Make eye contact and smile. Good eye contact is an indication that you are interested and engaged in what the other person is saying. Research shows that maintaining eye contact about 60% of the time is a good idea. A warm authentic smile makes the best first impression. Ensure that it’s a full lip-to-cheek-to-eye smile. A smirk can make you appear to be unreal. 2. Project positive body language. For example, poor posture can be perceived as low self-confidence and self-esteem. Using your dominant hand, give a warm firm handshake. 3. Say their name. Most everyone responds positively to hearing their name being called. Remembering and saying their name helps you establish a connection. That along with...
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