Aftermath of Tragedy: 4 Ways to De-stress and Heal

Honoring the fallen: Coping with grief and stress | WFAA.com www.wfaa.com/news/health/honoring-the…and…/273105340 Dr. Trevicia Williams Talks Ways to De-stress After Tragedy As a human behavior expert with a doctorate in psychology, I look at life events and experiences through the lens of multiple disciplines, including psychology. That’s why I stopped by ABC’s WFAA News 8 to discuss the psychological effect of grief and stress after a tragedy like the ambush on Dallas police department officers during the peaceful protest July 7. Our brains are much more sensitive to negative information than positive news. The reasoning and emotional areas of the brain must have balance to function properly. When the emotional part of the brain is overly excited, people lose control of their ability to respond sensibly. That’s why it’s important to pause, listen, seek information from all perspectives of issues and think before speaking. My work focuses on inspiration, motivation, and personal development through full potential living coaching wherein I help people define their purpose, vision, personal growth and plans of action as well as professional development through speaking, seminars, workshops and training. Seek help from a licensed mental health professional if you are in emotional distress since coaching is not counseling nor therapy. “The Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA) is the agency within the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services that leads public health efforts to advance the behavioral health of the nation.  SAMHSA provides a list of warning signs and risk factors for emotional distress related to incidents of mass violence and other disasters. SAMHSA also has a number of resources if you or someone you know needs help in working through emotional...

National Self Improvement Month: 75 Ways to Learn and Grow

September is National Self Improvement Month, 30 days of reminding people to pause and take the time of do something that can help improve themselves. This is also the time for making positive changes to live a happier and better life. But making those changes and self-improvement is not an easy and simple task that can be achieved during a short period of time. So, I’m kicking off the month long awareness for personal growth with tips and free growth strategy coaching sessions. The coaching sessions are designed to help individuals and business owners transform their dreams into tangible results and turning their intentions into actions. Each of these sessions is geared at helping all participants in developing their real personal plan for their growth and success. To achieve self-improvement, commitment and professional help are needed. That’s my objective with my free growth strategy sessions. I will share the most effective ways to help you achieve your goals. Participants in shifting their gear, gaining their complete focus and moving forward to achieve their well-deserved peak. Aside from the insights that participants may gain, they can also have a complete access to the most powerful tools like the Free Growth Strategy Analysis. At the end of the sessions, participants will learn about the things needed in changing their story from being unproductive to achieving growth. It’s also just days before the NFL will kick off their 2015 football season. In light of that, my Free Growth Strategy Sessions were inspired, in part, by the buzz involving the Tom Brady “deflategate” scandal, Dez Bryant, the NFL, and the sport’s push for ongoing self-improvement of players. As with the ongoing self-improvement required for sports players, individuals and professionals can benefit from the help of an expert...

Free Workshop: Moms Learn Valuable Skills for Back to School Success

Free Workshop: Moms Learn Valuable Skills for Back to School Success With summer winding down, life and success coach Dr. Trevicia Williams reminds parents, students, and teachers about valuable skills essential for a successful and productive year at home and school during her free back to school success edge, secrets every mom should share with her daughter seminars. Read...

The Realities of Disney Inside Out

Have you seen Inside Out yet? As a relationship life coach, I compared Disney’s Inside Out movie with my own Real Beauty Inside Out Healthy Mother Daughter Relationships seminars and coaching and found the commonality of having an inside out approach to relationships. So, here is an overview of the movie and a few tips to get through the complexities of mothers daughter relationships as well as father daughter relationships. Disney Inside Out (Pixar) leaps from the complexities of mother daughter relationships in previous movies like Cinderella and Brave and takes into account changes a father found in his own preteen little girl. For some, that is the age when adolescence begins to blur away, and kids frequently get to be touchy, darker, and they begin to disguise a significant amount of those emotions. Inside Out is an investigation of that turbulent time, and happens totally inside of the psyche of a 11 year old tween girl named Riley. The film concentrates on the main impetuses inside Riley’s head. These are fundamental feelings that drive Riley’s thought life and emotions. Simultaneously, they aide her development. They include Fear (Bill Hader), Sadness (The Office’s Phyllis Smith), Joy (Amy Poehler), Disgust (Mindy Kaling) and Anger (Lewis Black). What’s interesting is how the subconscious area of the Riley’s mind is played out through imagination, dreams, thoughts and abstract thinking. What a way for kids to be introduced to the power of the mind. In that context, the movie is very spiritual as well. So, moms, parents and guardians be aware and prepared to help your daughter or son understand the realities of the...

Dr. Trevicia Williams, Uses Coaching and Relationship Seminar to Address Publicly Shaming Teens for Punishment

 With the growing wave of parental social media shaming that has taken place in recent times, including the 13 year old girl who committed suicide after she was publicly shamed by a viral Facebook video, it was apparent to Dr. Trevicia Williams that a better way of communicating and parenting needed to be revisited. Using her years of experience as an effective success and life coach, she created the fun interactive mother daughter seminar, “I love You, But I Can’t Stand You Right Now” and a new addition to it called, “The Café.” This interactive thought-provoking seminar aims to help mothers and daughters learn skills to help them succeed through childhood, adolescence, and beyond.  Read more...

Dr. Trevicia Williams Highlights 3 Lessons We Can Learn from the Duggar Family Scandal

Just days after the Duggar family interviewed with major media outlets in hopes of quelling a public firestorm, Dr. Trevicia Williams is offering powerful lessons that can be learned from Josh Duggar, his past behavior and his journey to overcome it.  Read  more.. “When dealing with circumstances such as this one, it’s important to acknowledge the negative behavior, take steps to amend it and rely on the power of forgiveness in order to heal and move forward. Forgiveness is one of the most underutilized powers human beings have,” said Dr. Trevicia Williams, life coach and human behavior expert. “Even in Christian families, sometimes good people do unthinkable things. But teens who have faltered can still be redeemed by working vigorously on their moral...

Dealing with Difficult People

Dealing with Difficult People Chances are high that you have met someone who just always got under your skin. You are not always going to like the people that are in your daily life. Whether it is someone you live with, or someone you work with, you need to know how to handle people that seem to live to make your life difficult. Here are 10 tips you can utilize when you are dealing with difficult people. 1. Accept, change, or reject. You only have three choices when it comes with working with difficult people. You can accept the situation. This means you know it will never change but it is what it is. You can attempt to change how you perceive the person that seems to be giving you so much difficulty. Perhaps, they are only annoying you because you do not understand them. You can reject the situation. If the situation with the person is really that difficult it is time to move on. Find a different way to work around that person without having a negative impact on your well-being. 2. Don’t lose emotional control. Some people live to antagonize others. They want to see how far they can go until you lose control. It is important that you remain calm and do not show them your annoyance. Eventually, they will give up and move on to a new target. 3. Think before you speak. You cannot take back words once you have already spoken them. When you say hurtful things, the feelings will linger with that person. It is best to continue to be kind...

National Bullying Prevention Month: Adult Bullies in Workplace, Friends and Family

October is National Bullying Prevention Month, and, while most of the attention concerning the topic focuses on children in schools, adult bullying is a serious issue too. Bullying is an abusive behavior that involves intimidation and aggression with the bully’s intention to control another individual. The behavior is often repeated and habitual. The objective is to dominate and show some form of power psychologically, socially and/or physically. Often times people only think of bullying within the context of children in schools. While that is an ongoing issue that needs attention there are adults who are bullied that need to have their voices heard too. Manipulative adults abuse in many of the ways children do. However, it happens within the context of family, workplace, universities or colleges and cyber space. The four types of bullying include: 1. emotional and psychological 2. verbal; 3. physical; and, 4. cyber. Verbal abuse can be just as damaging as physical and psychological abuse; therefore, it should not be dismissed because it’s not hands on. Bullies usually target their victims based on differences in socioeconomic status, image, demeanor, ethnic background, physical build, social status, gender, faith, political views and abilities. Race and gender are protected classes of people and  are protected by certain laws in the U.S.  Bullying can be person-to-person or it can occur in groups. It is referred to as peer abuse when it happens at school or at one’s job. It oftentimes involves abuse such as subdued behavior that isn’t immediately obvious. There are possibilities for bullying anytime human beings have contact or interact with each other. Notable environments include communities, homes, place of employment, schools, grocery stores, school...

Self Improvement: Ideas for Making a Lasting Impression in Less than 5 minutes

Ideas for Making a Lasting Impression in Less than 5 minutes Research shows people form opinions about us within seconds of contact. A New York University, Graduate School of Business, study showed that within the initial seven seconds of introductions, people make 11 decisions: “(1) education level, (2) economic level, (3) perceived credibility and believability, (4) trustworthiness, (5) level of sophistication, (6) sexual identification, (7) level of success, (8) political background, (9) religious background, (10) ethnic background, (11) social and professional desirability.” That’s a real eye opener! However, don’t panic because, keeping within the 5 minutes to make a great impression, you still have 4 minutes and 53 seconds to change their minds! You are the one who gives credibility to what a person thinks. Whether you’re networking, interviewing for a new job or are in a social setting, the following tips can help you leave a positive lasting impression: http://t.co/1pXAWDui0i 1. Make eye contact and smile. Good eye contact is an indication that you are interested and engaged in what the other person is saying. Research shows that maintaining eye contact about 60% of the time is a good idea. A warm authentic smile makes the best first impression. Ensure that it’s a full lip-to-cheek-to-eye smile. A smirk can make you appear to be unreal. 2. Project positive body language. For example, poor posture can be perceived as low self-confidence and self-esteem. Using your dominant hand, give a warm firm handshake. 3. Say their name. Most everyone responds positively to hearing their name being called. Remembering and saying their name helps you establish a connection. That along with...

The Psychology of Relationships: Lessons from the Bachelorette Andi Dorfman

The Psychology of Relationships: Lessons from the Bachelorette Andi Dorfman Just off the heels of the finale of another season of ABC’s The Bachelorette with Andi Dorfman, it’s a good opportunity to look at where our culture is regarding morals, relationships, and, sex. First Clare Crawley and Juan Pablo, then Andi Dorfman and Nick Viall. Before the season started, it was reported that Chris Harrison explained why Andi “was basically Sean Lowe.” We all know that was an erroneous projection. Conversely, morals and the sanctity of sex is fading. People’s standards of behavior and beliefs about what is and isn’t acceptable to do has to leave many concerned about future generations. In a recent interview with Huffington Post, Andi called Josh Murray’s proposal “sacred.” That had to have sent mixed signals to fans since she had a very different reaction to Nick Viall questioning her motive for “making love” to him in the fantasy suite. It seems a bit backwards since sex is sacred in many religions. Nick Viall appeared to be thrown off by Andi’s demeanor for the very reason that Andi was so upset with Juan Pablo Galavis after the fantasy suite experience. Andi said the fantasy suite experience with Juan Pablo was ”a disaster” and that she felt “cheap” the morning afterwards. She was so hurt and upset about her experience that she drilled him about it the next day and decided she couldn’t go on with the relationship. In a world that’s quickly changing in perspectives, morals, and values, it was refreshing to hear and see Nick express that his intimacy with Andi “meant something”...

Parenting: Ways to Deal With Defiant Teens

Ways to Deal With Defiant Teens It’s tough for parents to understand how to handle a defiant teen. The frustration comes with trying various strategies to deal with the seemingly out of control behavior and feeling like nothing is working. The ability to “get through to them” oftentimes leads to more parent teen differences and the loss of one of the primary adhesives to all healthy relationships: trust. The subsequent conflict sometimes sends teens down a road of more negative behavior. The key to turning the situation around and putting teens on a positive path is parental awareness and expressing understanding about how their teen feels. Here are some ways to do that: 1. Underlying Reason At the baseline of all of the raw emotions defiant teens express is an underlying reason. Teens have difficulties with peers, socializing, dating, school and other external relationships that may be causing misplaced aggression. For most teens, parents are their “cushion,” you are the place they go for comfort, consolation, encouragement, love and understanding. Sometimes they just want parents to listen. Then express empathy for what they are going through. Listening and empathy oftentimes turns a negative situation into a positive one. 2. Minimize Idle Time Busy teens who participate in activities tend to perform better in school, have healthier relationships with their parents and peers and are less likely to get involved with risky behavior. 3. It’s a Battlefield: Choose Wisely As teens gain more independence and continue to discover who they are as individuals, parent child differences increase. Choose situations to contend with based on their level of safety and importance....

Raising Teens: What Berkeley & Brooklyn Moms Have In Common

What Berkeley & Brooklyn Moms Have In Common Puberty’s effect on teens doesn’t begin to compare with it’s impact on moms. It is a common thread for all moms. There’s a storm of emotional, psychological, physical and social changes that occur during the adolescent years. What’s going on physically greatly affects an adolescent’s needs, desires, interests, and, emotions. As a tween and teen’s physical appearance changes, his or her social influence is altered as well. Great social influence is like putting a propeller on the range of emotional transformations adolescents go through. Physical changes, such as breast development, menstruation, facial hair, deeper voice and the like, affect children’s social experiences. Volatile hormones is not an excuse for extremes in moods and behavior, it’s a reality. Rapidly changing hormones is an explosion of chemicals racing through the body. Bodily changes can both positively and negatively affect a child’s social life. Teens who develop slower might experience less popularity than those who mature more quickly. The new attention or lack thereof affects a child’s self-esteem and confidence. Parents of teens share many of the same concerns, such as: Family Rules: Chores, Curfews, Driving, Hanging Out, Home Alone, Messy Room, Parties, Phones, Privacy, Screen Time, Social Networking, etc. ; Health and Behavior: Acne, Anger, Body Image, Cliques, Depression, Disorganization, Out of Control Teens, Eating Disorders, Fears, Friends, Insurance, Orthodontia, Passivity, Sleep, Spirituality; Activities, Events & Fun: Biking, Classes, Concerts, Friendships, Halloween, Moving, Parties, Prom, Sleepovers, Socializing, Spirituality, Sports, Summer, Travel, etc; Clothes, Grooming & Their Stuff: Acne, Allowance, Bras, Clothing, Credit Cards, Ebay, Gifts, Hair, Makeup, Phones, Tatoos, Piercings, etc.; and, Dating,...

Father Daughter Relationships: Do Daughters Marry Their Dads?

The father daughter relationship is important because it is part of a girl’s foundation of love, trust and security. The father daughter relationship sets the standards for respect and what she “should” expect from boys and men in other areas of her life. A daughter’s relationship and interactions with her father is a significant predictor of the type of short-term and long-term relationships she will pursue when she starts dating, and, later on, gets married. It has been said that daughters marry their fathers. That’s largely because children learn a lot about love and life by what they observe growing up. If they observe love and kindness they tend to seek those attributes in other relationships. Alternatively, if they observe abuse and neglect, they are more inclined to seek relationships accordingly. http://www.ktxdtv.com/story/25770571/psychologist-dr-trevicia-williams-father-daughter-relationships A recent study showed that fathers and mothers bond differently with daughters: Dads feel more connected and close when they are actually “doing” things with their daughters whereas moms feel closest when they are having a conversation with their daughters. 1. Doing vs. Dialogue A recent study showed that a significant “Game Changer” with fathers and daughters sense of feeling close were shared activities especially sports! Other meaningful life events for fathers and daughters include: 1. leaving home; and, 2. getting married. While the Baylor Study showed that both fathers and daughters agreed that playing sports helped them bond the most, other activities dads said enriched their relationship included: 1. Engaging in faith based activities such as church; 2. Doing projects around the house together; and, 3. Giving their daughters driving lessons. The study also showed that...

A Healthier You: 9 Reasons You Should Smile More

People scurry around looking for the latest health fad to make them skinnier, happier, healthier, look younger and spend billions of dollars trying to seize the perfect “fix.” However, few realize the health benefits of smiling. Some may already be thinking that it sounds to simple to be effective. However, there’s actually sound research that confirms it works! WebMD says that a smile makes you look intelligent, attractive and helps you be successful!. A smile also says a lot about your personality. Now, that’s worth genuinely flexing your facial muscles for! Here are ten reasons to smile more: 1 – Reduce Heart Rate – The body becomes relaxed, blood pressure is reduced, and, the the heart rate is slower when we smile. This takes a load off of the heart and helps it do it’s job without overly tasking it. Research shows that people who smile and laugh a lot reduce their chances of developing heart disease. 2 – Reduce Stress – One of the top 5 causes a range of health problems in America is stress. Smiling is a simple way to reduce stress lower the influx of stress hormone cortisol. 3 – Boost Productivity – Studies show that smiling increases productivity while working. 4 – Enhances Trust – Research confirms that people trust others who genuinely smile at them. Not only is it good for our mental health, it also improves our social health. Healthy relationships begin with the reciprocation of authentic smiles. 5 – Free Pain Killer – Proverbs says: “Laughter does good like a medicine.” Those are strong words, and, research shows that pain is...

Healthy Relationships: Ways to Avoid Psychological Bullying and Manipulation

Psychological bullying is pervasive; however, there are ways to identify and handle manipulative people who use others for personal agendas. Psychological manipulation can be described as “undue influence” through emotional abuse and mental exploitation, with the intention to gain power, control, advantages at a targeted person’s expense. Whether it’s spiritual, pastoral, platonic, intimate, family, business, or friends, all healthy relationships involve love, respect, and, mutual concern for the well being of the other person. Most people experience healthy reciprocation of giving and taking. It occurs when there’s a balanced exchange of benefits and privileges. However, when there’s an imbalance in what is exchanged emotionally, psychologically, physically, spiritually, or financially by parties, one person is being psychologically manipulated and is used for the benefit of another. The manipulator intentionally devises a plan that creates unfair leverage of power, and exploits the targeted person for the purposes of fulfilling or accomplishing his or her plan of action. ABC’s 20/20 recently did a story about how millions of people who are hurting and in difficult situations are manipulated by psychics, readers, witchcraft workers, and, witches everyday. People spend millions of dollars seeking answers to heart felt questions that they never get. Take a look at 20/20’s story: http://abcnews.go.com/US/private-investigator-helped-recover-2m-psychic-fraud-victims/story?id=23348889. God is THE only true, wholesome, full spectrum answer to your problems. You must always question the integrity of information when you are paying for it. Pick up the King James version of the Holy Bible and read, study, learn for yourself. Accept Jesus as your Lord & Savior and ask God to come into your life, and heart. Seek Him for help. In...

Dr. Trevicia Williams, Talks With Annie Jennings PR About I Love You But I Can’t Stand You Right Now

Dr. Trevicia Williams (Twitter: @DrTrevicia) had fun answering National New York Publicist, Annie Jennings, questions about the turbulent teen years, parent child relationships, mother teen daughter relationship dynamics and more. Dr. Trevicia Williams, is the author of the book There Are Pearls In The Pain of Every Experience, and Founder of the charity, Real Beauty Inside Out, where she offers the free workshop I Love You But I Can’t Stand You Right Now – Mother Teen Daughter Healthy Relationships. Read more about Dr. Trevicia Williams’ signature I Love You But I Can’t Stand You Right Now mother teen daughter healthy relationship interview:...

Dr. Trevicia Williams Calls Out Relationship Issue Between A Pregnant Texas Teen And Mother

Dr. Trevicia Williams Calls Out Relationship Issue Between A Pregnant Texas Teen And Mother Texas teen, Reagan, sued her parents just a few months ago over differences of opinion about an abortion. Things got so ugly that Reagan moved out of her parent’s house into the home of her baby’s daddy. Now, she’s back at home with her parents. More about “With Parents Like These” at: abcnews.go.com US “20/20: “Reagan and Evan Madison during their wedding ceremony. Reagan’s pregnancy led to her emancipation from her parents, who she felt were pressuring her to have an abortion.” http://abcnews.go.com/US/texas-teen-sued-parents-abortion-clash-back-mom/story?id=19401667#.UbvREECsiSo I think that this is a great story to show a real life example of how important the parent child relationship is. Moreover, it’s a very good example of how a weak mother daughter relationship can lead to poor decision making and teen pregnancy. As a human behavior and parent child relationship dynamics expert, that’s why during my I Love You, But I Can’t Stand You Right Now Mother Teen Daughter Healthy Relationship free workshops, I focus on effective communication skills between mothers and their teen daughters. When teen girls feel like they can talk about sensitive issues like sex when their mothers, they are less likely to engage in risky behavior. Learn more about my seminars and workshops at: http://www.treviciawilliams.com or...
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